His Purpose
Everyone has a purpose It is the reason we exist. Its our life's mission, objective or plan. Generally, we are here to glorify God and do His will. How that specifically translates in our lives is unique to each of us. Your husband needs to know the reason he exists. He needs to be sure his life is not just an accident but that he is here by design. He must be certain he was created for a greater purpose. When he discovers that purpose, and is doing what he was created to do, becoming what he was created to be, he will find fulfilment This can only contribute to your happiness as well.
If i have learned anything being married two and one half decades, it's being a wife can't put pressure on her husband to be something, but she can pray for him to become it. She can pray that he be molded according to God's plan and not anyone else's. Then, who he becomes will be determined by whether he hears God's call on his life, or not. For God "called us with a holy calling, not according to our works, but according to His own purpose and grace which was given to us in Christ Jesus before time began" 2 Tim 1:9
Your husband is predestined according to the purpose of Him who works all things according to the counsel of His will (Eph 1:11,12) But you still need to pray that he hears God's call, so that who he is and what he does lines up with God's purpose for his life.
You can always tell when a man is not living in the purpose for which God created him. You sense his unrest. You get a feeling something is not quite right, even if you can't put your finger on what it is. When you are around a man who is fulfilling his calling and doing what he was created to do, you are aware of his inner direction, confidence and deep security. How do you feel about what your husband is doing with his life? Do you lack peace about it because he is on a path that is unfulfilled, beating him down or going nowhere?
If so, then pray "Lord, take my husband from this place, reveal to him what You have called him to be and open doors to what he should be doing."
Praying that way doesn't mean your husband will be pulled out of what he's doing and dropped into something else. It can happen that way, but often what takes place is change in the man's perspective. I have a friend named David, who has worked for years in a factory making air planes When he heard the call of God on his life, he knew he was to help troubled teenagers in low income families. He also knew he wast to leave his job to do it. As it turned out, his work provided enough money to support his family while it afforded him exactly the kind of hours he needed to do what he had to do. He has organized food distribution to needy families, free concerts for under privileged teens, Christian outreached for the unsaved, and peace talks between rival gangs. He has done as much to bring restoration to his strife-torn city as a man could possibly do. His is by no mean an easy job. but it's fulfilling. And he has a sense of purpose that is unmistakeable when you are around him.
Physically he is not a large man, but he is a spiritual giant and you know it when you are in his presence. His wife, Priscilla, also hears God's call on his life and she supports it in every way she can.
Whatever God has called your husband to be or do, He has also called you to support it and be a part of it, if in no other way that to pray, encourage and help in whatever way possibly.
For some woman that means creating a good home, raising children, being there for him and offering prayer support. Other woman may take an active role by becoming a partner or helper. In either case, God does not ask you to deny your own person-hood in the process. God has called you to something too. But it will fit in with whatever your husband's calling is, it will not be in conflict with it. God is not the author of confusion, strife or unworkable situations. He is a God of perfect timing. There is a time for everything, the Bible says. The timing to do what Go has called each of you to do will work out perfectly, if it's submitted to God.
If your husband is already moving in the purpose for which God has called him, you can count on the enemy of his soul coming to cast doubt - especially if he hasn't yet seen anything close to the finished picture or realised the success he had envisioned. Your prayer can help cast away discouragement and keep it from taking hold. It can help your husband to hear and cling to God's revelation. It can cause him to live his life on purpose.
The Prayer:
Lord, I Pray that (husband's name) will clearly hear the call You have on his life. Help him to realise who he is in Christ and give him certainty that he was created for a high purpose. May the eyes of his understanding be enlightened so that he will know what is the hope of Your calling. (Eph 1:18)
Lord, when You call us, You enable us. Enable him to walk worthy of his calling and become the man of God You made him to be. Continue to remind him of what You have called him to and don't let him get sidetracked with things that are unessential to Your purpose. Strike down discouragement so that it will not defeat him. Lift his eyes above the circumstances of the moment so he can see the purpose for which You created him.
Give him patience to wait for Your perfect timing. I pray that the desires of his heart will not be in conflict with the desires of Yours. May he seek You for direction, and hear when You speak to his soul.
In Jesus Name, Amen.
